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August 22, 2018, 5:31 PM

Discipleship: Praying For Our Children

Prayer Principles For Our Children


“Arise, cry out in the night: in the beginning of the watches pour out thine heart like water before the face of the Lord: lift up thy hands toward him for the life of thy young children” (Lamentations 2:19).


1. The deepest desire of our hearts and the greatest challenge of our lives is to be famous in our homes. For me personally, parenting my two kids is more difficult, yet, far more important than pastoring this church. My family is my first church and I want to see them saved above all else. Heaven will be somewhat empty if my kids are not there. I want to be loved most by those know me best.


“Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her” (Proverbs 31:28).


2. The truth about raising kids is that we will never figure it out because they are moving targets. About the time we think we have them figured out, they’re on to the next stage of life.


Bad news, good news, great news about parenting: Here is the bad news: We’ll make a lot of mistakes.


3. It is amazing that our kids survive our parenting. The word diaper spelled backwards is repaid.


Now, here is the good news: Our worst mistakes double as our greatest opportunities.


How will your kids learn to apologize unless you model it for them? Your mistakes give you the opportunity to turn it into a teachable moment and one of the greatest lessons is how to say “I’m sorry.”


4. Here is a very simple parenting philosophy that boils down to just three words, please, sorry, and thanks. Teach your kids how to say these words. Better yet, teach them how to live these words. (and yes sir and no ma’am)


Here’s the great news: Prayer covers a multitude of sins!


5. The one thing you can’t afford to get wrong as a parent is prayer. You’ll never be a perfect parent, but you can be a praying parent.


6. Prayer turns ordinary parents into prophets who shape the destinies of their children, grandchildren, and every generation that follows. Some of what we are today is a result of praying ancestors. Heaven will be so wonderful when God connects all of the dots between past prayers and present answers. Your children need to see and hear you praying! Your prayers for your children are the greatest legacy you can leave


7. You don’t become a praying parent by default. You do it by design, by desire, by discipline..


8. It is imperative to distinguish between your will and God’s will. Every prayer, including your prayers for your children, must pass a twofold litmus test: your prayers must be in the will of God and for the glory of God.


9. Prayer is the way we take our hands off of our children and place our children in God’s hands. You can’t choose the Lord for your kids, but you can pray that they choose Jesus Christ for themselves.


10. One word of advice to parents of prodigals: form a prayer circle with other parents. Covenant to pray for each others children. No one can pray for children like parents.


Your prayers are prophecies. You can write the future of your family with your prayers.


“But the steadfast love of the Lord is from everlasting to everlasting on those who fear him, and his righteousness to children's children” (Ps 103:17 ESV).


11. Jesus Christ broke the curse so you can break the cycle. If you pray through, you’ll eventually experience a breakthrough. You won't just be blessed; you’ll pass on a blessing to the next generation.


12. “to pray without ceasing.” It’s praying until God answers. It’s praying with more intensity, more tenacity.


13. Prayer is the difference between you fighting for God and God fighting for you.


“With him is an arm of flesh; but with us is the Lord our God to help us, and to fight our battles.” (2 Chronicles 32:8).


14. A priority prayer for your children should be, “Lord, let them grow in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man. The favor of God is what God can do for you than you cannot do for yourself.


“And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favour with God and man” (Luke 2:52).


Prayer is the way we write the future. It’s the difference between letting things happen and making things happen.

15. Learn to speak words of comfort and encouragement to your children. When you catch them doing something wrong, gently rebuke them. Lovingly remind them: that’s not who you are. When you catch them doing something right, reinforce it. Fan into flame the gift of God that is in them.


“For this reason I remind you to fan into flame the gift of God, which is in you through the laying on of my hands” (2 Tim 1:6 NIV).


One of our chief responsibilities as a parent is to be a student of your child. You aren’t just a prophet who speaks into their future; you are also a historian who records their past. It is your job to help your children connect the dots between who they were, who they are, and who they are becoming.


16. Each of us as parents must pray the price – and the price is blood, sweat, and tears. Praying hard is hard work!


“Cease not to give thanks for you, making mention of you in my prayers” (Ephesians 1:16).

Making a list is not in everyone’s personality, but we’ve all learned that the most effective way to accomplish tasks is to write down what we need or what needs to be done. If we need a grocery list, an invite list, a to-do list, isn’t it possible we might need a prayer list?


17. Pray that the ears of your children will be tuned to the still small voice of the Lord. If they don’t hear the voice of God, they will echo our culture.


18. The purpose of prayer is not to outline our agenda for God; the purpose is to get into the presence of God and get God’s agenda for us.


19. We need a vision for our children. With our physical eyes we can see who a person is. With our spiritual eyes we can see what that person can be. When Jesse looked at David, he saw a shepherd boy; when Samuel looked at David, he saw a king. One of the great dangers of family relationships is that we become blind to beauty and mystery simply because we live in such close proximity. Learn to look at your kids through your spiritual eyes!


A good prayer for our children is that they be strong and courageous and do what is right in the eyes of the Lord.


20. If you want your child to have success you should pray Joshua 1:7.


“Only be thou strong and very courageous, that thou mayest observe to do according to all the law, which Moses my servant commanded thee: turn not from it to the right hand or to the left, that thou mayest prosper whithersoever thou goest. 8 This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success” (Josh 1:7-8).


21. Don’t ever underestimate your children’s potential. Give them opportunities to exercise their spiritual gifts, and they might just surprise you. There is untold potential in your kids!


Great parenting doesn’t just mean teaching your kids; it also means learning from them. Think of it as reverse mentoring.


22. Don’t just pray for your children, pray with them.


It is like teaching them to drive. Get them out of the back seat. You can pray for them their whole lives, but if you never let them pray, they’re just along for the ride. They won’t know how to get anywhere in prayer.


23. All of us need Aarons and Hurs in our lives. We need people who are strong when we are weak. We need people who are full of faith when we are running on empty. We need people who will fight for us on their knees. Sometimes parents play the role of Aaron and Hur, but sometimes children hold up our arms.


24. We do know that 100% of the prayers we don’t pray won’t get answered. When we get discouraged as parents, we have to remember the power of a single prayer. One prayer can change anything, change everything.


“And blessed is he, whosoever shall not be offended in me” (Luke 7:23).


You never know who you are praying for and who is praying for you. You never know how or when God will answer your prayers. But you can be sure of this: Your prayers will shape the destiny of your children for generations to come. Don’t lose heart. Don’t lose hope. Don’t lose faith.


“As for me, this is my covenant with them, saith the Lord; My spirit that is upon thee, and my words which I have put in thy mouth, shall not depart out of thy mouth, nor out of the mouth of thy seed, nor out of the mouth of thy seed's seed, saith the Lord, from henceforth and for ever (Isaiah 59:21).

December 7, 2017, 1:28 PM

There Is Only One God and His name is Jesus

There Is One God – And Jesus Is His Name

Isaiah makes numerous emphatic declarations that there is only one God:

Isaiah 37:16 (KJV) 
O Lord of hosts, God of Israel, that dwellest between the cherubims, thou art the God, even thou alone, of all the kingdoms of the earth: thou hast made heaven and earth.
Isaiah 43:10-11 (KJV) 
Ye are my witnesses, saith the Lord, and my servant whom I have chosen: that ye may know and believe me, and understand that I am he: before me there was no God formed, neither shall there be after me. [11] I, even I, am the Lord; and beside me there is no savior.
Isaiah 44:6 (KJV) 
Thus saith the Lord the King of Israel, and his redeemer the Lord of hosts; I am the first, and I am the last; and beside me there is no God.
Isaiah 44:8 (KJV) 
Fear ye not, neither be afraid: have not I told thee from that time, and have declared it? ye are even my witnesses. Is there a God beside me? yea, there is no God; I know not any.
Isaiah 44:24 (KJV) 
Thus saith the Lord, thy redeemer, and he that formed thee from the womb, I am the Lord that maketh all things; that stretcheth forth the heavens alone; that spreadeth abroad the earth by myself;
Isaiah 45:21-22 (KJV) 
Tell ye, and bring them near; yea, let them take counsel together: who hath declared this from ancient time? who hath told it from that time? have not I the Lord? and there is no God else beside me; a just God and a Saviour; there is none beside me. [22] Look unto me, and be ye saved, all the ends of the earth: for I am God, and there is none else.
Isaiah 46:9 (KJV) 
Remember the former things of old: for I am God, and there is none else; I am God, and there is none like me,
Isaiah 48:11 (KJV) 
For mine own sake, even for mine own sake, will I do it: for how should my name be polluted? and I will not give my glory unto another.

There is only one God, who is the Creator and Father of humanity Malachi 2:10 (KJV). 
Have we not all one father? hath not one God created us?

In the time of the millennial reign of Christ, there shall be only one Lord with one name
Zech. 14:9 (KJV).  “…  And the Lord shall be king over all the earth: in that day shall there be one Lord, and his name one.”

The Old Testament speaks of God as being one…

Many times the Bible calls God “the Holy One” (Psalm 71:22; 78:41; Isaiah 1:4; 5:19; 5:24) but never the “holy two,” or “holy three,” or “holy many.”

Surely, God could not make it plainer that no plurality whatsoever exists in the Godhead.

The bottom line is, the Old Testament affirms that God is absolutely one in number. Deut. 6:4 (KJV)  Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God is one Lord:

The New Testament Teaches There Is But One God

Jesus emphatically taught Deut. 6:4, calling it the first of all the commandments (Mark 12:29-30).

The New Testament explicitly repeats the Old testament teaching of one God.

“Seeing it is one God, which shall justify” Romans 3:30 (KJV)
 “There is none other God but one.” 1 Cor. 8:4 (KJV) 
“But to us there is but one God, the Father” 1 Cor. 8:6 (KJV) 
“but God is one.” Galatians 3:20 (KJV) 
“One God and Father of all” Ephes. 4:6 (KJV)
“ For there is one God” 1 Tim. 2:5 (KJV)
 “Thou believest that there is one God; thou doest well: the devils also believe, and tremble.” James 2:19 (KJV) 

    Again the Bible calls God the “Holy One” (I John 2:20).

There is ONE throne in heaven and ONE sits upon it (Rev. 4:2).

  1.  For in him dwelleth all the fulness of the Godhead bodily. Col. 2:9 (KJV) 

The Old Testament

  1. Isaiah 9:6 (KJV)  is one of the most powerful scriptures that prove that Jesus is the one true God… “For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given: and the government shall be upon his shoulder: and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counsellor, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace.”

The terms child and son mean the Incarnation or the manifestation of “The mighty God” and “The Everlasting Father.”

  1. Isaiah prophesied that the Messiah would be called Immanuel, that is, God with us (Isaiah 7:14; Matthew 1:22-23).
  2. Isaiah described the Messiah as both a branch out of Jesse (the father of David) and the root of Jesse (Isaiah 11:1,10).

As for his flesh, He was a descendant (branch) of Jesse and David, but as for His Spirit He was their Creator and source of life (root).

  1. Isaiah 35:4-6 “Behold, your God … he will come and save you.” It goes on to say that when God comes, the eyes of the blind would be opened, the ears of the deaf would be unstopped, the lame would leap, and the tongue of the dumb would speak. Jesus applied this passage of Scripture to himself in Luke 7:22. Of Course, His ministry did produce all of these things.
  2. Isaiah 40:3 declares that one would cry in the wilderness, “Prepare ye the way of the Lord, make straight in the desert a highway for our God.” John the Baptist fulfilled this prophecy when he prepared the way for Jesus (Matthew 3:3); so Jesus is the Lord (Jehovah) and our God.

So, the Old Testament clearly states that the Messiah and Savior to come would be God himself.

  1. The New Testament
  1. Thomas saw the nail prints… “My Lord and my God.” (John 20:28).
  2. According to Acts 20:28 (KJV), the church was purchased with God’s own blood, namely, the blood of Jesus. “Take heed therefore unto yourselves, and to all the flock, over the which the Holy Ghost hath made you overseers, to feed the church of God, which he hath purchased with his own blood.”
  3. Paul described Jesus as “the great God and our savior Jesus Christ” (Titus 2:13; NIV has “our great God and savior, Jesus Christ”).
  4. Peter described Him as “God and our Savior Jesus Christ” (II Peter 1:1; NIV and TAB both have “our God and Savior Jesus Christ”).
  5. The Book of Colossians strongly declares of Jesus Christ “For in Him dwells all the fullness of the Godhead bodily” (Colossians 2:9).

So, Jesus is not just a part of God, but all of God is resident in Him.

Whatever we need from God we can find in Jesus Christ alone. The New Testament testifies to the full deity of Jesus Christ.

God Was Manifest in the Flesh  As Jesus

The statement that Jesus is God necessarily implies that God took on human flesh. This is in fact what the Bible says.

  1. “God was manifest in the flesh, justified in the Spirit, seen of angels, preached unto the Gentiles, believed on in the world, received up into glory” (1 Tim. 3:16). God was manifest (made visible) in flesh; God was justified (shown to be right) in the Spirit; God was seen of angels; God was believed on in the world; and god was received up into glory. How and when did all this happen? In Jesus Christ.
  2. In the beginning was the Word, and the Word with God, and the Word was God … And the Word was made flesh, and dwelt among us” (John 1:1, 14). Literally, the Word (God) was tabernacled or tented among us. When did God tabernacle or robe Himself in flesh? In Jesus Christ.
  • Both verses prove that Jesus is God – that He is God Manifest (i.e. revealed, made known, made evident, displayed, shown) in flesh.
  • Remember that God is a Spirit – without flesh and blood and invisible. In order to make Himself visible and in order to shed innocent blood for our sins, he had to put on flesh.
  • Jesus is not another God or a part of God, but He is the God of the Old Testament robed in flesh. He is the father incarnate; He is Jehovah who came in flesh to bridge the gap between humanity and God – that sin had created.
  • Jesus is “the image of the invisible God” (Colossians 1:15; II Corinthians 4:4).
  • He is God veiled in flesh … “through the veil, that is to say, his flesh” (Hebrews 10:20).
  • He came to His own creation and to His own chosen people, but they did not recognize Him or receive Him (John 1:10-11).


The Word

John 1 beautifully teaches the concept of God manifest in flesh. In the beginning was the Word (Greek, Logos). The Word was not a separate person or a separate god any more than a man’s word is a separate person from him. Rather the Word was the thought, plan, or mind of God. The Word was with God in the beginning and actually was God himself (John 1:1). The Incarnation existed in the mind of God before the world began. Indeed, in the mind of God the Lamb was slain before the foundation of the world (I Peter 1:19-20; Revelation 13:8).

John 1 says the Logos existed in the mind of God from the beginning of time. When the fullness of time was come, God put His plan into action. He put flesh on that plan in the form of the man Jeus Christ. The Logos is God expressed.

Jesus Is the Father Incarnate
In the Bible, the term “Father” when referring to God means “Father and Creator of all”. Not simply “father” in the sense that He was a son.

          Incarnate means – “in flesh” or to give bodily form to

If there is only one God and that God is the Father, and if Jesus is God, then it logically follows that Jesus is the revelation of the Father.

Some think that Jesus can be God and still not be the Father incarnate, but what does the Bible say?

  1. Isaiah 9:6 calls the son the Everlasting Father, Jesus is the Son prophesied about and there is only one Father (Malachi 2:10; Ephesians 4:6), so Jesus must be the Father revealed (made known or made visible) in the Son (the flesh, the body, the incarnate).
  2. Coloosinas 2:9 proclaims that all the fullness of the Godhead dwells in Jesus. The Godhead includes the role of the Father, so the Father must dwell in Jesus.
  3. Jesus Himself taught that He was the Father revealed, once, when Jesus was talking about the Father, the Pharisees asked, “Where is thy Father? Jesus answered, Ye neither know me, nor my Father: if ye had known me, ye should have known my Father also” (John 8:19).
  • Jesus went on to say, “I said therefore unto you, if ye believe not that I am he, ye shall die in your sins” (John 8:24).
  • We should note that he in the verse is in italics, which indicates that it is not in the original Greek, being added by the translators. Jesus was really identifying Himself with the “I AM” of Exodus 3:14.
  • The Jews, who did not understand His meaning, asked, “Who art thou?” Jesus answered, “even the same that I said unto you from the beginning” (John 8:25).
  • However “they understood not that He spake to them of the Father” (John 8:27). In other words, Jesus tried to tell them that He was the revelation of the father, the “I AM”, and that if they did not accept Him as God they would die in their sins.
  1. In another place Jesus said, “I and my Father are one” (John 10:30).
  2. Jesus stated in John 12:45, “And he that seeth me seeth him that sent me.” In other words, if a person sees Jesus as to his deity, he sees the Father.
  3. In John 14:7 Jesus told his disciples, “If ye had known me, ye should have known my Father also: and from henceforth ye know him, and have seen him.”
  • When Philip heard this, he said, “Lord, shew us the Father, and it sufficeth us” (John 14:8).
  • In other words, he asked that Jesus show them the Father and they would be satisfied.
  • Jesus answer was, “Have I been so long time with you, and yet hast thou not known me, Philip? he that hath seen me hath seen the Father; and how sayest thou then, Shew us the Father? Believest thou not that I am in the Father, and the Father in me? the words that I speak unto you I speak not of myself: but the Father that dwelleth in me, he doeth the works. Believe me that I am in the Father, and the Father in me: or else believe me for the very works' sake” (John 14:9-11).
  • This statement can be viewed as nothing less than the claim of Christ to be the Father manifested in the flesh. Like many people today Philip had not comprehended that the father is an invisible Spirit and that the only way a person could ever see Him would be through the person of Jesus Christ.
  1. Jesus said, “The Father is in me, and I in him” (John 10:38).
  2. In john 14:18 Jesus said, “I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you.”
  • The Greek word translated “comfortless” is orphanos, which Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance defines as “bereaved ‘orpans’, i.e. parentless.”
  • Jesus was saying, “I will not leave you as orphans” (NIV), or “I will not leave you fatherless: I will com to you.” Jesus, speaking as the Father incarnate, promised that He would not leave His disciples fatherless.


Comparisons that prove that Jesus is the father incarnate.

  1. Jesus prophesied that He would resurrect his own body from the dead in three days (John 2:19-20)’ yet Peter preached that God raised up Jesus from the dead (Acts 2:24).
  2. Jesus said he would send the Comforter to us (John 16:7), but He also said the Father would send the Comforter (John 14:26).
  3. The father alone can draw people to God (John 6:44), yet Jesus said He would draw all people (John 12:32).
  4. Jesus will raise up all believers at the last day (John 6:40), yet the Father quickens (gives life to) the dead and will raise us up (Romans 4:17; I Corinthians 6:14).
  5. Jesus promised to answer the believer’s prayer (John 14:14), yet He said the Father would answer prayer (John 16:23).
  6. Christ is our sanctifier (Ephesians 5:26), yet the Father sanctifies us (Jude1).
  7. I John 3:1,5 states that the Father loved us and was manifested t take away our sins, yet, we know it was Christ who was manifested in the world to take away sin (John 1:29-31).
  • We can easily understand all of this if we realize that Jesus has a dual nature. He is Spirit and flesh, God and man, Father and Son.
  • On His human side He is the Son of man; on His divine side he is the Son of God and is the Father (i.e. Spirit of God) dwelling in flesh.



A Moral Refutation of the Dogma of the Trinity‚Äč

God Possesses the moral attribute of justice:

God will not condemn nor punish an innocent person. The opposite is also true. God will punish and condemn all guilty persons. God’s moral attribute of justice demands this to be accomplished.

Scriptural references:

In flaming fire taking vengeance

David commits adultery with Bathsheba. David then causes the death of Urijah. God could not overlook the guilt of David. David was a man after God’s own heart but God had to respond to David’s sin. God’s attribute of justice dictated David’s demise. David’s son died shortly after his birth.

God’s justice punished the guilty Jesus was sinless:

Proverbs 6:

These six things doth the Lord hate; yea, seven are an abomination unto him: A proud look, a lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood …

1. God the Father would hate himself if the trinity were true

Deuteronomy 19:13 Thine eye shall not pity him, but thou shalt put away the guilt of innocent blood from Israel, that it may go well with thee.

2. God the Father would have to manifest himself in order to die to make his justice credible.

A man who sheds innocent blood shall have his own blood shed

The courts declared him to be innocent

Acts 13:28 No cause of death in him

The Legislature declared him to be innocent

Matthew 27:19 Pilate “this just man”

The executioners declared him to be innocent

Matthew 27:54 “Truly this was the Son of God”

Luke 23:47 “Certainly this was a righteous man”

I Peter 1:19 blood of Christ, without blemish, without spot, separate from sinners


Jesus was innocent:


I Peter 1:19 Blood of Christ without blemish and without spot

Hebrews 7:26 holy, harmless, undefiled


2 Cor. 5:21 Who knew no sin

Is. 53:9 No violence, no deceit in his mouth

I Peter 2:22 Who did no sin

I John 3:5 No sin reviled not again

Christ was sinless:

Christ was just:

Christ was God:

III. Moral Objection # 1

A. the Father was responsible for the death of the son.

Is. 53:6 Lord hath laid upon him the iniquity of us all

Is. 53:10 it pleased the Lord to bruise him; he hath put him to grief

Ps. 22:15 thou hast brought me into the dust of death

2 Cor. 5:21 For he hath made him to be sin for us

Acts 2:28

Romans 3:25 Whom God hath set forth to be a propitiation

I John 4:10 Sent his son to be the propitiation for our sins


B. The Father would be breaking His own moral code


C. The Father would be disannulling His own law


D. It was premeditated murder.


Son was responsible


John 10:17 I lay down my life, that I might to take it again.

Galatians 2:20 and gave himself for me

Matthew 20;25 And He gave his life a ransom for many

Heb. 9:14-15 offered himself without spot to God

I Tim. 2:5,6 who gave himself a ransom for all


September 19, 2017, 8:51 AM

A Faith Formula For Forgiveness

Ephesians 4:31-32 (NJB)  Any bitterness or bad temper or anger or shouting or abuse must be far removed from you—as must every kind of malice. Be generous to one another, sympathetic, forgiving each other as readily as God forgave you in Christ.

There are nearly 2000 newspapers published daily in North America, with a combined circulation of nearly 70 million. Limitless possibilities exist for error, both human and mechanical. Add the crushing pressure of deadlines, and it's surprising there aren't more mistakes. When goof-ups happen, editors scurry to print corrections, sometimes with even more hilarious results:

Important Notice: If you are one of hundreds of parachuting enthusiasts who bought our Easy Sky Diving book, please make the following correction: on page 8, line 7, the words "state zip code" should have read "pull rip cord."

In yesterday’s Food Section, an inaccurate number of jalapeno peppers was given for Jeanette Crowley's Southwestern chicken salad recipe. The recipe should call for 2, not 21, jalapeno peppers.

Yesterday we mistakenly reported that a talk was given by a battle-scared hero. We apologize for the error. We obviously meant that the talk was given by a bottle-scarred hero.

Our newspaper carried the notice last week that Mr. Oscar Hoffnagle is a defective on the police force. This was a typographical error. Mr. Hoffnagle is, of course, a detective on the police farce.

In last week's issue, a picture showed some very unusual oriental dishes which were enjoyed by a party for foreign exchange students.  Mi Thi Thin is a foreign exchange student who was standing in the center of the picture.  We incorrectly listed her name as one of the items on the menu.  We regret the error.

In a recent edition, we referred to the chairman of Chrysler Corporation as Lee Iacoocoo. His real name is Lee Iacacca. The Gazette regrets the error.


That’s why we are studying the Beatitudes in this series. We want DELIVERANCE from the hurts others have inflicted on us, and from the damage we have done to others – without making matters worse!   The problem is that we just mess things up when we try it on our own.

This text gives us two important principles to help us in repairing our relationships:

Forgive those who have hurt me

Make amends to those I have hurt


We’ve already learned in this series that the WHY is more important than the HOW, because when I understand WHY I should do something, it will be much easier to figure out HOW to do it. So, for each of these steps, let’s look at the WHY and the HOW …



Because God has forgiven me. 

Colossians 3:13 (LB)  Be gentle and ready to forgive; never hold grudges. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.

When I remember how much God has forgiven me, it makes it a whole lot easier to forgive other people. You will never have to forgive anyone else more than God has already forgiven you!

When you have a hard time forgiving others, it's usually because you don't feel forgiven. PEOPLE WHO FEEL FORGIVEN FIND IT EASIER TO BE FORGIVING. People who feel unforgiven find it difficult to forgive others.

Because resentment doesn't work. 

Job 5:2 (TEV)  To worry yourself to death with resentment would be a foolish, senseless thing to do.

Job tells us that RESENTMENT is unreasonable, unhealthy, and unhelpful. Does resentment ever cause people to do stupid things? Yes! It's like shooting yourself so you'll hit somebody else when the gun recoils. You always hurt yourself more than the other person. Anger is a waste of energy!

Ecclesiastes 7:9 (TEV)  Keep your temper under control; it is foolish to harbor a grudge.

Job 18:4 (TEV)  You are only hurting yourself with your anger. Will the earth be deserted because you are angry? Will God move mountains to satisfy you?

When you get angry and resentful toward somebody, you don't hurt them. You're all upset about it, and it's not bothering them.  It's making you miserable, but they've forgotten it. Resentment cannot change situations in the past, cannot correct problems in the present, and doesn't change people in the future – it just makes you miserable! Have you ever talked to someone who said, "I feel so much better after being resentful"? Never!

Job 21:23-25 (TEV)  Some people stay healthy till the day they die; they die happy and at ease, their bodies well-nourished. Others have no happiness at all; they live and die with bitter hearts.

Research has shown that the unhealthiest emotion people have is resentment, because it's like a cancer that eats you alive. Bitterness has physical consequences! Have you ever said, "That guy is a pain in the neck"? He may indeed be the cause of your pain in the neck if you have resentment toward him!

A guy walked into the doctor and said "I need some more pills for my colitis." The doctor said "Who are you colliding with now?"

Dr. S.I. McMillan wrote a book that showed that the two greatest causes of the physical problems in life are guilt and resentment.  He said, "It's not so much what you eat, it's what eats you that matters."  Nothing drains you emotionally like bitterness. It just prolongs the hurt. It's like an emotional suicide. You need to forgive those that hurt you, for your own sake. 

Because I will need forgiveness in the future. 

Mark 11:25 (LB)  But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive you your sins too. "

Resentment blocks your sense of God’s forgiveness in your life. The Bible teaches that WE CANNOT RECEIVE WHAT WE ARE UNWILLING TO GIVE!

It is dangerous to pray the Lord’s prayer: “Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors.” – “Lord, forgive me as much as I forgive everyone else.” DO YOU REALLY WANT THAT?

Forgiveness is a two-way street. One man came to John Wesley and said, "I can never forgive that person. Never."  John Wesley said, "Then I hope, sir, that you never sin.” Don’t burn the bridge that you have to walk across!


Reveal my hurt. 

You can’t get over a hurt until you admit that it hurt!

Here are your options when faced with a hurt:

You can REPRESS it (pretend it didn’t happen)

You can SUPPRESS it (pretend it is no big deal)

You can EXPRESS it (let your anger get the best of you)

You can CONFESS it (admit that it hurt and deal with it)

People say, "I'd really like to close the door on my past. I'd like to get closure so this person doesn't hurt me anymore." That’s fine, but THERE IS NO CLOSURE WITHOUT DISCLOSURE. You must first admit that it hurt, then you can get over the hurt. 

For many people, one of the most helpful things is to express your hurt in  letter – and then don’t mail the letter. Just getting it off your chest is the most helpful thing. 

Psalm 55:12-14 (NJB)  Were it an enemy who insulted me, that I could bear; if an opponent pitted himself against me, I could turn away from him. But you, a person of my own rank, a comrade and dear friend, to whom I was bound by intimate friendship in the house of God!

Release my offender. 

The only way you can release an offender is to FORGIVE THEM. Don't wait for them to ask for forgiveness, because they may never think that they need to ask for it! Besides, you're doing it for your sake not for their sake. You are going to need forgiveness in the future, so you must obey the Word of God. 

Matthew 18:21-22 (NLT)  Then Peter came to him and asked, "Lord, how often should I forgive someone who sins against me? Seven times?" "No!" Jesus replied, "seventy times seven!

Jesus is saying that forgiveness has to be continual, because those feelings will keep coming back, and every time that happens you have to forgive them all over again.

How do you know when you have released an offender fully?

You can think about them and it doesn't hurt anymore.

You can pray for God's blessing on their life.

You can understand their hurt, instead of focusing on your hurt (because hurt people, hurt people!).


Replace my hurt with God's peace. 

Colossians 3:15 (NLT)  And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are all called to live in peace. And always be thankful.

Let God settle the score; after all, He can do a whole lot better job than you can! Let Him have the last word in the situation!

Relationships can sometimes tear your heart into pieces, but God can glue those pieces back together and cover your heart with His peace. That’s why you need to REVEAL your hurt, RELEASE your hurt, and REPLACE your hurt



Because UNRESOLVED RELATIONSHIPS are at the root of your problems and they prevent recovery from happening.  You have to take the second step, and make amends to people you've hurt as well as releasing the people who've hurt you.

Hebrews 12:15 (LB)  Look after each other so that not one of you will fail to find God's best blessings. Watch out that no bitterness takes root among you, for as it springs up it causes deep trouble, hurting many in their spiritual lives.

You have to let go of UNRESOLVED RELATIONSHIPS if you want to enjoy the happiness that God meant for you to have in this life.


Make a list of those I've harmed and what I did. 

“I can't think of anybody!” We figured you'd say that, so here are a few pointers to get you started:

Do I owe a debt to someone that I haven’t paid?

Have I broken a promise to someone?

Am I too controlling or too possessive of someone?

Am I too critical of someone?

Have I been verbally or physically abusive to someone?

Am I unappreciative or unattentive toward someone?

Have I been unfaithful or have I lied to someone?

Is that enough to get you started, or do you need more help?!


Think how I'd like someone to make amends to me. 

Luke 6:31 (NIV)  Do to others as you would have them do to you.

Luke 6:31 (MSG)  Here is a simple rule of thumb for behavior: Ask yourself what you want people to do for you; then grab the initiative and do it for them!

Think to yourself, "If someone were going to apologize to me, how would I want it done?" And then do it that way! Here are three issues to consider:


Ecclesiastes 8:6 (TEV)  There is a right time and a right way to do everything, but we know so little!

Make amends when it is best for them, not when it is best for you. Don’t rush things!


Ephesians 4:15 (GW)  Instead, as we lovingly speak the truth, we will grow up completely in our relationship to Christ, who is the head.

Simply say that what YOU did was wrong. Don’t make any excuses for your actions, just assume responsibility. THEY may have had a part in the problem, but you’re just trying to clear up YOUR side of the ledger! Don’t expect anything from them in return – just apologize!

The more serious your offense, the less likely it is that you're going to be able to make restitution. There are some things you can't restore that you've taken away from other people.  But don't underestimate the power of a sincere apology. 



Proverbs 12:18 (TEV)  Thoughtless words can wound as deeply as any sword, but wisely spoken words can heal.

There are some situations you wouldn’t want to revisit because to do so would just open up the proverbial “can of worms.” So what do you do? Write the letter that you never send, then just do what you can to balance the ledger.

Romans 12:18 (NIV)  If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.


Refocus my life. 

Refocus your life on doing God’s will STARTING TODAY in all of your relationships. That’s what RECOVERY is all about.

As long as you focus on someone you resent, you’re allowing them to control you. And if you continue to RESENT them long enough, you will eventually begin to RESEMBLE them! WHAT YOU FOCUS ON IS WHAT YOU BECOME! Don’t let your past control your present!

God is the greatest recycler! He wants to recycle the emotional garbage in your life and bring good out of it. How does He do that? Look at these wise words from the book of Job … 

Job 11:13-16 (TEV)  Put your heart right, Job. Reach out to God. Put away evil and wrong from your home. Then face the world again, firm and courageous. Then all your troubles will fade from your memory, like floods that are past and remembered no more.





You can’t manufacture enough forgiveness for all the times you’re going to be hurt in this life. You just don’t have the ability, because human forgiveness eventually runs dry.

That’s why you need to plug in to Jesus, so that He can daily give you the forgiveness you need to REFOCUS your life.

Say to yourself, “I’m not a victim, I’m a victor!”  THEN ALL YOUR TROUBLES WILL FADE FROM YOUR MEMORY!

September 5, 2017, 10:42 AM

Guilt Trip: How To Get Guilt To Go

Psalm 32:1 (LB)  What happiness for those whose guilt has been forgiven! What joys when sins are covered over! What relief for those who have confessed their sins and God has cleared their record.

This step has to do with cleaning up the past, letting go of guilt, gaining a clear conscience and learning to live guilt free in the future. 

Why is this  part of the recovery process? Because guilt keeps us stuck in the past, keeps us from growing and keeps us from becoming all God wants us to be. IF YOU’RE GOING TO LEARN HOW TO REALLY ENJOY LIFE, YOU HAVE TO LEARN HOW TO LET GO OF GUILT.

None of us is faultless. We’ve all sinned and made mistakes, so we all have regrets and remorse. We all sometimes wish we could turn back the clock and do things differently. So we feel guilty about it and carry it around with us – sometimes consciously, but most of the time unconsciously.

There are a lot of ways you react in life that are caused by unconscious guilt, things you feel bad about that you may not even be aware of.  You may deny or repress the guilt. You may excuse or rationalize the guilt. You may even blame other people for your guilt.  But you still feel the effects of it.

If you're really going to recover from the hurts habits and hang-ups in your life, you've got to learn how to let go of guilt and live with a clear conscience. Psychologists tell us that we can’t get rid of our guilt, that we just have to learn to live with it. So people try to rationalize their guilt. WHEN I RATIONALIZE MY MISTAKES AND SINS, MY MIND SAYS IT’S OKAY WHILE MY HEART SAYS IT’S WRONG. (But my heart always wins, because it will not keep quiet!)

The good news is that the Bible tells us how to do what psychology tells us we can’t do! And when we take this step, we will reap the benefits of it in our mind and heart …

Matthew 5:8 (MES)  You're blessed when you get your inside world—your mind and heart—put right. Then you can see God in the outside world.

Psalm 32:1 (LB)  What happiness for those whose guilt has been forgiven! What joys when sins are covered over! What relief for those who have confessed their sins and God has cleared their record.


Before we look at HOW we take this step, let’s look at WHY we take it, because when we understand the WHY, the HOW is easier.



You cannot be a confident person if you have guilt in your life. It makes you feel insecure because you're always worried, "What if somebody finds out the truth about me? Then they may not like me or they may reject me." As a result, we become afraid of other people and it destroys our confidence. 

Many years ago Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, writer of the Sherlock Holmes novels, played a prank on five of the most prominent men in England. He sent an anonymous note to each of them which simply said: "All is found out, flee at once." Within twenty-four hours all five men had left the country!

Guilt robs you of confidence. It's like a cloud hanging over your head and you're thinking, "I just can't get on with my life because I'm afraid somebody is going to find that skeleton in my closet, that deep dark secret that no one else knows about.” Guilt carries a heavy weight – and it robs you of confidence.


Guilt causes me to respond to people in wrong ways.

Guilt can cause me to be impatient with other people.

Guilt can cause me to overreact in anger (“explosion”).

Guilt can cause me to indulge people (“buy for them”).

Guilt can cause me to avoid commitment in relationship (“this close but no closer”).

One of the major reasons I won’t let people get close to me is GUILT. It makes me respond to people in ways that sometimes even I don’t understand. A lot of marriage problems today are caused by things that happened prior to the marriage that a spouse still feels guilty about. Guilt is damaging!


Living in the past is like always looking in the rearview mirror.  You're going to end up crashing if you do that. Guilt tends to replay in your mind over and over the things you wish you could change but you're never going to change.

Guilt cannot change the past just like worry cannot change the future; it just makes today miserable. 

On top of that, guilt can make you sick. According to one report, psychiatrists say that seventy percent of the people in the hospital could leave today if they just knew how to resolve their guilt.  When I swallow my guilt my stomach keeps score, and if I don't talk it out with God, I will take it out on myself or on others. 

Proverbs 28:13 (TEV)  You will never succeed in life if you try to hide your sins. Confess them and give them up; then God will show mercy to you.


Take a personal moral inventory. 

How do I do that? Get alone by yourself with a pen and notepad and ask yourself, “What have I felt guilty or remorseful about? What are the faults in my life that I know need changing?” Ask God to bring even subconscious hurts or hang-ups to your mind.

Lamentations 3:40 (NIV)  Let us examine our ways and test them, and let us return to the Lord.

Psalm 139:23-24 (NIV)  Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.

When you take this personal moral inventory, take your time. And by the way, it doesn’t work unless you are brutally honest with yourself. This is a good regular discipline that can keep you growing and in tune with God’s purpose in your life.

Why in writing? Because it forces you to be specific. Thoughts disentangle themselves when they pass through the lips and the fingertips. If I can't say it or put it in writing, it's still pretty vague. 

The Person: Who is the object of my resentment or fear?

The Cause: What specific action did they take that hurt me?

The Effect: What effect did that action have on my life?

The Damage: What damage did that action do to my instincts?

My Part: What part of the resentment am I responsible for?

Accept responsibility for my faults. 

Proverbs 20:27 (TEV)  The Lord gave us mind and conscience; we cannot hide from ourselves.

The greatest holdup to the healing of your hang-ups is YOU! It all starts with being radically honest and saying, “I’m the problem.” We say, "If I just change relationships, jobs, or locations, or churches then everything will be fine.” The only problem is wherever I go, there I am! And I keep messing things up."

Don’t rationalize it, don’t minimize it, and don’t blame others. It may have been mostly their fault but what about your part? That’s what God holds you responsible to deal with.

1 John 1:8 (PHI)  If we refuse to admit that we are sinners, then we live in a world of illusion and truth becomes a stranger to us.

If I really want to stop defeating myself, then I've got to stop deceiving myself.  Accept responsibility for your faults!

Ask God for forgiveness. 

1 John 1:9 (PHI)  But if we freely admit that we have sinned, we find him reliable and just – he forgives our sins and makes us thoroughly clean from all that is evil.


Don’t beg

Don’t bargain (“I promise I won’t do …”)

Don’t bribe (“I promise I will do …”)

Just believe!

The word “admit” (KJV: “confess”) is a compound Greek word, HOMOLOGEO, from HOMO (meaning “same”) and LOGEO (meaning “word”). To admit or confess means to speak the same thing about your sin as God says about it. Just give up and agree with God – He’s always right anyway!

The basis for forgiveness is that God is utterly reliable, because it’s His nature! “But it doesn’t seem fair – somebody has to pay for my sin.” SOMEBODY DID! That’s why Jesus Christ died.

Isaiah 1:18 (KJV)  Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool.

Admit my faults to another person. 

James 5:16 (MES)  Make this your common practice: Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you can live together whole and healed. The prayer of a person living right with God is something powerful to be reckoned with.

God says that this step is absolutely essential to your deliverance: ADMIT YOUR FAULTS TO ONE ANOTHER. Why can’t I just admit it to God? Why do I have to drag another person into this? BECAUSE THE ROOT CAUSE OF OUR PROBLEM IS RELATIONAL. We lie to each other and wear masks; we deny our true feelings and play games. As a result, we become isolated and insecure (“If they really knew the truth about me, they would reject me.”)

I AM ONLY AS SICK AS MY SECRETS. Revealing your feelings is the beginning of healing. When you risk honesty, suddenly a feeling of freedom comes into your life. You realize that everybody has problems, and often they have the same ones you do. You don't need more than one, but you do need at least one person in life you can be totally honest with. Why? There is something therapeutic about it. It's God's way of freeing us. 

Do I just go out and broadcast my sins to everybody? No! Telling the wrong person could get you in trouble. So who do you tell?

Someone who can trust to keep a confidence.

Someone who understands the value of what you're doing. 

Someone who is mature enough to not be shocked. 

Someone who knows the Lord well enough that they can reflect His forgiveness to you.


THE DEVIL WORKS THROUGH ISOLATION! The moment you share the secret that’s been making you sick, you will experience freedom like you’ve never felt before.

The secret you want to CONCEAL the most is the one you need to REVEAL the most because it will HEAL you the most!

Accept God's forgiveness and forgive myself. 

Romans 3:23-24 (NLT)  For all have sinned; all fall short of God's glorious standard. Yet now God in his gracious kindness declares us not guilty. He has done this through Christ Jesus, who has freed us by taking away our sins.

People come up to pastors all the time and say, “That message was just for me – you’ve been reading my mail.” No, I haven’t; I’ve been reading MY mail. We’re all in the same boat, and not one of us is perfect. The sin problem is universal; only the details are different.


He forgives INSTANTLY. (Humans like to make us suffer for awhile, but God doesn’t do that)

He forgives FREELY. (We don’t deserve forgiveness and we can’t earn it, but God gives it to us)

He forgives COMPLETELY. (God totally wipes out our failures and mistakes when we ask Him – keep short accounts with God!)

Romans 8:1 (KJV)  There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.


1 John 3:19-20 (NLT)  It is by our actions that we know we are living in the truth, so we will be confident when we stand before the Lord, even if our hearts condemn us. For God is greater than our hearts, and he knows everything.

1 John 3:19-20 (MES)  This is the only way we'll know we're living truly, living in God's reality. It's also the way to shut down debilitating self-criticism, even when there is something to it. For God is greater than our worried hearts and knows more about us than we do ourselves.

When you live in the past it is hard.  I am not there; my name is not “I WAS.”  When you live in the future it is hard.  I am not there; my name is not “I WILL BE.”  When you live in the present it is easy.  I am there; my name is “I AM.”

October 1, 2016, 11:53 AM

Winning Over Worry

                                                                         Winning Over Worry
We all have worries: finances, jobs, relationships, kids, health issues, etc. But there are three problems with worry. Worry is unhelpful, it’s unreasonable and it’s unhealthy.

It’s unhelpful because it never accomplishes anything, worry does not solve the problem. Worry cannot change the past. It cannot control the future. It can only make us miserable today.

It’s unreasonable. It magnifies the problem. It makes mountains out of molehills. Worry makes your problems seem bigger than they really are. To worry about something you can’t change is useless. To worry about something you can change is stupid – just go ahead and change it.

Worry is unhealthy. The body is not made for worry. Worry can cause ulcers, backaches, headaches, insomnia. It’s unnatural. Plants and animals don’t worry. The only thing in creation that worries is people. The old English word for worry means “to strangle” or “to choke”. Worry is not natural and it’s unhealthy.

What Is God’s Antidote For Worry?

Let’s look at Psalm 23

1 The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing. 2 He makes me lie down in green pastures,
he leads me beside quiet waters,
3 he refreshes my soul.He guides me along the right paths
for his name’s sake.

If I really believe that God is going to take care of me, I’m not going to worry. I’m going to trust in God for all my needs. David called God his shepherd. What do shepherds do?

1. A shepherd PROVIDES. Food, shelter, the basic necessities.
2. A shepherd PROTECTS. Against enemy attacks.
3. A shepherd GUIDES. Leads when you don’t know the path.
4. A shepherd GATHERS. When we head in the wrong direction.

The amazing thing is that God promised to do these four things in your life if you’ll trust Him. He says, “I’ll provide for you. I’ll protect you. I’ll guide you. I’ll gather you to my side if you’ll let me be your shepherd. Look at what it says in Isaiah 40:11

11 He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms
and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young.

Philippians 4:
19 And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.

The verse doesn’t say might – doesn’t say I’ll think about it – it says He will. He’s either going to supply my needs or He is a liar.

God says “I will meet all your needs.” What does all include? Doctor payments? Mortgage payments? Spiritual needs? Financial needs? Relational needs? Yes – everything.

Worry is not only unhelpful, unreasonable, unhealthy – but it’s unnecessary if Jesus is your shepherd. Any time you worry you’re acting like an atheist. In essence you are saying: God is not going to take care of my needs. I don’t think He can. I don’t think He’s big enough – in fact I’m not sure He is even there. The antidote for worry though is make God your shepherd.

How Do I Make God My Shepherd?

God is not the Shepherd for everybody. He’s only the Shepherd of those who let Him be the Shepherd.

Psalms 23:1

1 The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing.

What does it mean to be Lord? It means to be in control. Lord simply means to be in charge. Today, instead of Lord, we might say, the boss, the manager, the owner. Lord means under His control.

In John chapter 10 Jesus says that three things happen when you make Jesus your Shepherd. You hear His voice – you have a relationship with Him – and you follow Him. In other words, you put Him in control.

My sheep hear My voice, I know them, and they follow Me. John 10:27

All worry is about is a control issue. Who is really in control? Worry is nothing more than trying to control what you can’t control - trying to control the uncontrollable. Worry is a warning light that you have not put God in control.

Who’s in control of your life? God gives you the option. He doesn’t force Himself in anyone’s life. You have two options – either you can be in control of your life or you can let God be in control of your life. God doesn’t co-pilot. If you’re in control of your life you are playing God. Every time you try to take complete control of your life – you are going to worry – because worry is a control issue.

If you’re running your own life without having God in control you ought to worry. Because there are things in your life that you will never control. But if God is running your life and He’s the Lord of your life – you should not worry. The Lord is your Shepherd. What you should do is:

Begin Praying About EVERYTHING.

What should you start praying about? Start praying about the things you have been worrying about. If we prayed about the things we worried about we would have a lot less time to worry. Worry doesn’t change things – prayer does. Worry is stewing without doing. Prayer puts you in contact with the One who can change the things you can’t. Whenever a problem arises I have two options – I can panic or I can pray.

Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Philippians 4:6

Cast all your care upon Him, because He cares about you. 1 Peter 5:7

Cast means to unload. Let go. The Greek word literally means to drop. Unload it. It says I am to unload it. But notice where I unload it. “On Him”. We place all of our cares and worries on Him – because He cares about you. It doesn’t mean that our worries go away – what this means is that we give them to Jesus and He takes care of them.

When you put your faith in God – He still works miracles.

There is a second thing you do if you want to deal with worry.

Consider One Day AT A TIME.

Matthew 6:34

34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. (NKJV)

God will take care of tomorrow – trust Him for today. Don’t open your umbrella until it starts raining. Today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday. When you worry you don’t change yesterday, you can’t control tomorrow, and you mess up today with worrying. The future can seem overwhelming. Therefore, trust God in small bites. Live for Him today. Notice how Jesus prayed:

Give us this day our daily bread. Matthew 6:11

Overcoming worry is a day by day choice. There is no pill you can take to stop worrying. There is no seminar, book or Podcast  that will make you stop worrying. God’s antidote for worry is to put Him in control of your life.

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